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Your past does not define who
you can become
As survivors of sexual and domestic abuse, we hold within us
the power to inspire others by speaking up and sharing our
healing journey. Through our courage to break the silence, we
not only confront our own trauma but also pave the way for,
and inspire others, to do the same. By sharing our stories, we
create a community of validation and understanding...where
every voice, no matter how soft, can be heard. Together through
advocacy, therapy, and supporting one another - we embark on
a path towards truth, healing, reclaiming our voices, and finding
strength in our resilience.
WhyTrust Me?
Hello, I am Amber...
My Life’s Story
As a dedicated wife, mother, and
entrepreneur my personal journey of abuse
and struggle has evolved into a source of
motivation. The lessons learned from
overcoming internal and external obstacles
now infuse every aspect of my life. I bring a
wealth of life experience, profound
understanding of transformation and my
objective is to inspire others through non
partisan understanding.
My Core Values
I have developed faith in the ability to
transform. Each person has the resilience to
conquer obstacles and shape a life filled
with joy. The journey to healing starts with
acknowledging and understanding that the
past events were not your responsibility. By
taking control, you can alter the course of
your life and break the cycle of generational
trauma.
“The Obedient Daughter”
Available Now
"The Obedient Daughter" is a heartfelt depiction of my
personal journey, highlighting moments of triumph
and strength. It delves into childhood sexual abuse,
domestic abuse, and the challenges of coping with a
mother who suffered from borderline and narcissistic
personality disorder. It's a reminder that your past
trauma doesn't have to shape your future. This
empowering memoir emphasizes the significance of
courage, speaking up and taking control of your life.
You are more than your past.
Areas of expertise
Conversation Topics
From personal experiences, we gain a deep understanding of
various forms of trauma.
Are you interested in having Amber speak at an event or podcast?
- Clarifying the nature of
sexual abuse and initiating
the journey towards healing
by addressing its lasting
impact.
Childhood Sexual abuse
- Education and awareness of
NPD play a crucial role in
supporting self-preservation
and setting boundaries to
enhance your mental well-
being.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
- Identifying coping skills,
setting boundaries, and
understanding the
complexities of those who
deal with BPD
Borderline Personality Disorder
divorce
- Dealing with emotional turmoil,
financial changes, and rebuilding can
be challenging. Managing feelings of
isolation, loss, and navigating
practical issues such as co-parenting
and finances may feel like a lot to
handle.
generational trauma
domestic abuse
- It manifests in various forms
such as physical, emotional,
financial, verbal, and
psychological. Finding a
secure means of escape is
paramount.
- Overcoming the inheritance of
psychological, emotional, and
behavioral patterns from ancestors
who experienced significant
trauma. Identifying your parents
trauma can impact your own
mental and emotional well-being.
Amber Hayes, an interior designer and mother of two girls based in Calgary, embarked on her entrepreneurial journey after deciding to
leave behind the corporate world, marking just the start of her remarkable story. After concealing her deepest secret for a quarter of a
century, Amber, at the age of 37, found herself battling depression like she never had previously. Having endured eight years of childhood
sexual abuse amidst a toxic family environment, she later entered an abusive marriage, believing it to offer a better life. However, her
narrative took a profound turn as she faced her truth, and turned all the pain into strength. Scheduled for release in September 2024, her
upcoming book titled "The Obedient Daughter" will narrate her triumph over adversity, urging women to reclaim their voices and liberate
themselves from the constraints of past traumas. Through her activism, community involvement, and dedication to racial harmony,
Amber is reshaping the concept of strength and motivating others to embrace their truth – authentically and fearlessly. Her journey
stands as a testament to resilience, empowerment, and the firm belief that every woman transcends her history.
Official Bio
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Interior designer and mother of two, Amber Hayes, shares her journey from trauma to triumph, battling depression and abuse. Her
memoir "The Obedient Daughter" available now, chronicles her resilience and empowerment, encouraging women to overcome past
traumas. Amber advocates for racial and ethical harmony through authenticity, inspiring others to find strength they may have never
known they possess.
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